Are you sure you are not seeing I and P on the governor? Those are your I and P gains (just like PID gains on a quad or something) so you can adjust for the best gov. The governor you want to run is called GovSto Or Governor Store. On this you will completely charge up your battery pack, set your throttle curve to exactly 50% all the way across, and you will spool it up with no pitch on the blades (if it is windy, you can put a little negative pitch on the blades), and then let it run on the ground for at least 20 seconds to 30 seconds. Once that is done, shut it down and set your throttle curve back to what you want it to be. You will now have an active governor.
For the soft start. Try Very Soft first and then try Soft and see what one you like better.