I have only been in RC Helicopters for about 8 months now. I has taken me 8 months just to get the feel of getting off the ground and doing some "fly it out and then back it up" flying. If you have A DX6 then you can get a cable for it that will allow you to use a Simulator on a PC for about $10. The simulator will help with getting used to the stick reactions and orientation, I prefer clearview. Clearview is free but limited on the number of models you can load, If you buy it for $40 then you can load a bunch of models to practice with.
I bought a Blade SR the first time also so I know where you are at. It was too much for me to learn on and not very stable. I bought a ESky Honey Bee V2 and it really helped me get off the ground. I still use it to practice orientation. The Blade SR, I can get it off the ground now with out tearing it up but it is still really hard for me to control because of it's size.
Some people can pick a Heli up and fly it when they get home. That ok, one day I will be able to "Flip My Bird" and do some of the things that these guys do on youtube.
My favorite part of it all is the building. I have always been a tinkerer, so I get great pleasure in building something that will actually fly, Specially when I know Helicopters aint spose to fly anyways.
Good luck and We are here to share our experiences with you, you'll get there if you stick with it, it just takes time