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So you have to first centre the servo. Do this by powering it up connected to a receiver or by using a servo tester if you have one. Now take the arm off and move it to the spline that is closest to the desired position. It probably wont be exactly centre so that final adjustment has to be made either in the Tx sub-trim menu (for a flybar heli) or the flybarless controller (for a flybarless heli).
To get the ball to fit the arm you will need to drill out the hole in the arm. Only drill the one you need otherwise the arm will be weakened too much. The holes in the arms are usually too small for the threads on ball links because the arms are designed to be also suitable for airplanes which use thin wire ends on their pushrods. Use a spot of Loctite on the nut which retains the ball but dont overtighten the nut or it will split the plastic of the arm.